The pros of adulthood don’t seem to present themselves in the same way as the cons, they’re subtle changes that we experience as we’re growing up. Having more freedom starts at home, usually, with a later bedtime, choosing what you want to eat, when your eventually allowed to go out with friends to the local shopping centre with £10 and a kiss goodbye. These are all fantastic things when you’re younger, exciting and new experiences, it’s making me smile just to think about it. As you get into your twenties, perhaps you’ve moved out from your family home and are learning to live independently. You’re suddenly chucked into the deep end of ‘official adulthood’, of course your family may be there for you every step of the way and Google is a fine helper on just about anything you might need to know (although please go to a GP instead of Googling ANY symptoms as that is an anxiety we can all do without!). The excitement of moving out and becoming your own boss is immense, but once you’ve upgraded to the ‘official adulthood’ level of life it’s a long way down to the easy childhood you miss so dearly and the sad part about that is, you don’t realise until you’re an adult just how good you did have it as a child or young adult living at home. In fact, when I was a child I was longing to grow up, I wanted to be an adult so badly and I remember daydreaming about how I would be in my twenties, I definitely thought I would look older than this.
To tell the truth, although I am terrible at it, I do love being an adult. The realisation of who you are as a person, learning what you’re good at and being able to take your life on whichever journey you want, provided you have the means. Of course I miss the ease of being a child and not having to take responsibility, I think most people would agree with that but nothing (for me) beats knowing who you are as a person, the realisation that I enjoy writing, that I’m observant and am incredibly kind, learning that I am the definition of ‘people-person’, knowing that feeling I get when I listen to my favourite songs and having to fight the urge to dance. All of these little things that I never realised as a child but can fully appreciate in adulthood and really, it’s a shame we don’t know more about ourselves when we’re younger, perhaps I would have been quicker into the dream career? I wonder if any parents or older siblings can see these things in their little ones, if you can I urge you to speak to them about their amazing personality traits, see if it could open up a part of them that they didn’t know existed. I will certainly think about this the next time I see my younger sister. What can I see that she can’t that could potentially help her to better understand herself?
It wasn’t until long ago actually that I realised some of these things about myself, obviously I’ve always known that I love music but it wasn’t until recently I realised how passionate I am about music and the way it makes you feel. In English GCSE I got a B grade in both literature and language, so I knew I was fairly good at it, but I didn’t know how much I actually enjoyed the subject until 7 years after leaving. Now, 9 years since I’ve left school and I’ve learned so much about how my mind works and my strengths and weaknesses as a person that I wish I could go back and make different choices to those that I did but since that’s impossible, instead, I will use my strengths and passions to take me where I want to be, we’re not in a race and it isn’t the shortness of this journey that matters, but the final destination of where you want to be that does matter.
This is very deep for Friday afternoon reading I must say! But I would love to hear if anyone else has recently learned something about themselves that they didn’t know until they became an adult, whether it is a strength a weakness or personality trait, learning anything about yourself is positive even if it’s a negative. And if you haven’t even thought about this other than to fill your CV or job application, really look into yourself and you might find something that surprises you.
Thank you so much for reading, I really enjoyed writing this!
Hannah x